Behold the light of Elendil, our most beloved star. May it be a light for you in dark places, when all other lights go out. [Galadriel – The Lord of the Rings]
I haven’t been feeling well for the past week. The weather changed so quickly here in Maryland that I caught a mild cold. Long before that happened, however, I had a member of my family tell me that my dream of having a home based business was stupid and that I needed to get a real job.
This came from someone who opinion I respected so of course it hurt my feelings. After feeling like pond scum for about two days, I shook it off determined to persist but a strange thing started to happen. Every time I would sit down to work, their words would come back to haunt me leaving me uninspired to do anything and I would end up aimlessly surfing the internet.
So I’m not getting any work done which is frustrating me and the frustration turns to a feeling of helplessness and the inevitable happens. I fall into a depression.
To help combat this, I decide to email my good friend, Katie, for an ego boost and as always she comes through for me (well, actually she and her husband). Therefore just for listening to my drama queen meltdown and assuring me that I have what it takes to be successful I give both Katie and Jim the best friend award.
For everyone else I offer you this advice. It doesn’t matter what your dreams are or what goals you are pursuing in life. You will always run into people who, for whatever reason, will attempt to be a roadblock on the path towards success. You job as the dreamer is two fold.
1. Treat your dreams as though they are the light of Elendil
In the movie, Lord of the Rings: Return of the King, Frodo is lead to a cave by Gollum, where a spider queen is laying in wait to gobble him up. At the entrance to the cave, Frodo senses trouble but goes in anyway and quickly comes to regret that lapse in good judgment. After stumbling around for awhile, he remembers the vial Lady Galadriel gave him and upon using it discovers the true danger he’s in. Lucky for him, the vial not only repels the beast but helps him find his way to a safe place away from it.
Not to get all mushy and metaphysical but your dreams are the light that guides you. Sometimes we get off track. Whether we are led there by people with suspicious motives or get lost all on our own, holding our goals up before us will often illuminate the dangers surrounding us.
For instance, the person that told me I needed to get a real job didn’t seem to understand that being an employee is not for everyone myself included. Among the other horrors of working for others, I get lulled into a false sense of security by that regular paycheck and don’t pursue my goals as hard as if I were completely dependant on myself and my own efforts. So to combat this because I do need to pay my car payment, I make sure to pick jobs that remind me every time I go to them why it is I’m pursuing the goal of having a home based business.
2. Surround yourself with people who believe in you
As I stated before, there will always be people who suck and who, for whatever reason will try to lead you astray. Therefore you need to surround yourself with people who rock and who will throw out the life preserver when they see you drowning.
To continue with the LOTR example, when Frodo makes it to the safe place he almost gives up on his journey. Lady Galadriel, however, reminds him of his destiny which serves to motivate him to continue on. He manages to make it to the exit of the cave but is surprised when the queen spider pounces and paralyzes him. For sure, it seems like Frodo is a goner but then his BFF Sam comes to rescue and saves him from certain doom by fighting and mortally wounding the spider.
Would your friends do that?
If so then you need to find as many like them as you possibly can and surround yourself with them like a shield because the world does not lack for Gollums or queen spiders or orcs.